A true love story

           

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            Iniya, that’s her name. I met her in the youth group of Vijayanagar church where I used to go. I didn’t know much about her and didn’t speak much to her either. She was just like any other friend of mine but I kept a distance. All we did was greet each other when we met or left from the group. I didn’t notice her to fall in love with her. And she too never had any kind of feeling towards me.

            It was while returning from a youth trip that I got acquainted to her sister Melba. She started off by complaining that I don’t speak. I told her that I was trying to avoid being a nuisance. She challenged me to speak and I warned her that it’s a bad idea. She still insisted. And I opened up. Everyone was pretty much tired in the mini van and fell asleep soon. I didn’t stop though her eyes were falling and she begged me to stop. Finally around 2 or 2.30 in the morning I felt pity for her and let her sleep. Since then we used to have casual chats whenever we meet and I used to send her messages as I used to do to other friends.  

            After that incident I met both of them at the youth group and special occasions at church. I still kept a distance with both. It was to such an extent that I even changed my route back home since I saw them going before me as I was returning from church one day. I thought they stay somewhere in my area and that is their regular route and I didn’t want to be a flirt who follows anyone. The last I heard from Melba was an invitation to her marriage.

            Once Melba got married she stopped coming to our church. As I follow the policy of not keeping in touch with married girls, so as to avoid any problems cropping up due to doubts, I got cut off with her. If I’m right it was after that that Iniya spoke to me one day when we were doing some decorations for our church. She told me about her confusion on studies and I spoke to her what I felt is good for her. After that both of them were not seen in our church. I thought they got shifted from there.

              

            After many months, or perhaps a year or two, as I was riding, with lots of thoughts crisscrossing my mind, and marriage being one of them, all of a sudden Iniya’s name came to my mind. It was a shock for me because I never ever thought of her beyond any of my friends. I just shook it off my mind and started thinking of something else. But it was too strong and it didn’t get off of my mind. I wondered if it's a sign of God. Once I got back home I called up Fr. Steve, who was in our church but placed in Mangalore then, and spoke to him about this. He said it might be just a feeling and he cannot say much about it. Though I took her contact I just ignored it because I didn’t want to spoil the friendship we had. More over I was not in love with her and also not sure if she is engaged with someone else.

            Messages are, I believe, the best way to keep in touch with friends without disturbing them in their busy schedules. And only those who are eager to keep in touch will reply to it. Since I got her contact number I introduced myself and asked her how her sister is doing. I got the reply for that.         Like I sent to anyone else I started messaging her. But there was no message from her side. So like any other friend whom I stop messaging if I feel they are not interested in keeping the relation, I stopped messaging her soon. After a very long time I got a message from her saying that she’s shifting to a new location and that she’ll miss me. I replied that I neither understand nor do I believe how she’ll miss me because we never kept in touch with each other. After that I never heard from her.

            Time moved on and so did my life. I quit my job and took up videography, which was my passion, as my profession, meanwhile helping and giving tips for few audio visual programs. I happened to meet Patrick and from then our journey started together. He was there with me like a shadow for most of the programs, managing lot of things. Since he was away from his family I used to visit him often and go out for a cup of tea. Since I had to go to my editor Shaji, who stayed near his place in SG palya, almost everyday to give or take videos, it became a routine to visit Patrick and spend time with him.

            One day, on our way near his house we happened to meet Sowmya. Initially I thought she was Patrick’s friend but later came to know that she knew me as I had done a role in one of the skits which she had seen some time back. Unexpectedly she asked me if I knew Iniya. I was quite surprised because I’d almost forgotten her and wondered how she knew her. So I asked her if it’s the Iniya from Vijayanagar. She wasn’t sure about it. Since I knew only one person in that name I said I know someone from Vijaynagar in that name. She said she’s her room mate and that she stays in a hostel nearby. I asked her to convey my regards.

            Everything went on as usual and after a long time we happened to meet Sowmya again. I remembered that Iniya stays with her and hence I enquired about her and asked to convey my regards. In few days time I got a message from an unknown number saying: “this is my new number, Iniya.” I just laughed at it because I’d already deleted her old number since we were not in touch. I didn’t save the new number either because I didn’t feel there is any need for that.

            After few weeks or months I got a forwarded message from an unknown number. Since I didn’t know who it was I requested to reveal the identity. I got a reply asking me to find out who it is. I shot back saying I won’t do that and if you feel like revealing yourself you may reveal. I got the reply saying let it be a suspense then. I replied: “fine, let it be so.” And it ended there.

           

            Later, one day, as my message box was getting filled up I sat to delete the messages. I stumbled on the message from Iniya saying this is the new number. Since there was no other message from any unknown number after that incident I cross checked the number and came to know it’s from her. So I sent a message saying I found out who it is. Then I asked her how she’s doing.

            Soon after that Patrick had to leave to his home town for a month. But since I had to go to my editor’s place often I thought I can meet Iniya and spent some time because she’s staying away from her family and it might give her some relief. I wasn’t sure if she would like that idea. Anyways I messaged her asking if she’s okay to join for a cup of tea any day if she’s free. She responded positively. But then it didn’t happen because I had to wait for a day in which my timing and her timing will match. And one fine day it happened.

            We just had a cup of tea over a casual chat and went our way. After few days again we got time to come together. And then onwards whenever she could make herself free once she’s back from college and if I’m around we met. Meanwhile I told her that I can meet her only because my friend Patrick is out of town and once he’s back I’ll not be able to meet her. She was fine with it.

            And the day came when Patrick was back. But by then, by the turn of events I felt that if these things had to happen as per God's plan it should be the continuation of that tiny spark which I had few years back. And if it’s His will it will happen without any hitch. So I thought I should speak to her and find out if she’s okay with it. Anyway I didn’t have a feeling for her and I believed that she too won’t have a feeling towards me. And there were lot of things to be sorted out before any conclusion. So I planned to meet her again. And when I met her I told her about this feeling I had and made it clear that it’s not that I’m in love with her or that I’m taking this as the ultimate move. I also told her that she need not agree to it just because of the reluctance to say no to me. I gave her the freedom to decide and not to stick on to it, but to wait for the family’s approval without which I cannot accept though it’s me who is keeping the proposal forward.

            She was shocked as she never thought of me more than as a friend, just as I considered her, and also never expected me to say such a thing. I reiterated not to consider this as done, and neither will I consider it so, until and unless her family agrees to it. I told her all my negatives and the problems she might face and asked her to think of the future before coming to a conclusion. I also asked her to forget about all that has happened if she has someone else in mind or if she cannot think of me that way. I guess she left with a heavy heart that day.

            Later I got a message saying that she doesn’t want to think of it because it might affect her exams which is on its way. I felt she’s saying so because she doesn’t want to say no directly to me and I confirmed it when she asked if we can just be friends and be so in future too. I agreed to it and I didn’t want to proceed it ay further. But to my surprise I got a message next day asking if my parents will agree and that she’s afraid to put it across to her parents. This is when I felt more of it as a God’s plan because neither me nor she had anything towards each other, but all that was there was just that spark I felt long ago. I told we’ll meet and discuss about it.

            Next time we met I once again asked her not to keep anything in mind and it’ll happen only if her parents agree and if not to forget it. I told that my parents only think of my well being and are open to anything. If I’m happy they’ll be more than happy. She said she’s afraid to present it to her parents and they’ll only object to it. I said it’s fine and since I know her sister I can speak to her first. Though reluctantly she agreed to that because that was the only way it could be presented to her family.

            So one fine day we met at a food joint and Iniya left the place citing some reason leaving Melba and her son Eric with me. I spoke to her casually and finally I put the matter across. She would have got the shock of her life I thought. But to my surprise she was more than willing to speak to her parents. Since she knew something about me she was very happy. One step cleared and now the greatest hurdle is how to convince her parents. I kept my fingers crossed and still didn’t inform my parents as I didn’t want to give them a false hope. I wasn’t nervous or anxious because I believed that if it’s God’s will it will happen and if not it might be someone else or maybe even not. 

             And now the time has come for Melba to speak to her parents. She put it across to them. Things weren’t too smooth, though it was really smoother than anything else in life. At first they were in a shock that something came up all of a sudden. But as Melba said that she knows me and my nature they were kind of relieved. And then there were no positives but only negatives when they started asking about me. The first one was my education. They couldn’t agree to it. But then she could convince them. But then what about the job? Oh, a videographer? Well, I can only agree to their concern because back in my own house that is what I faced from my parents and relatives when I first spoke to them that I want to get into this field. But, anyways, God has His plans that are greater than what we can imagine. Now, what about the age? Oh, No, how can it happen? With such an age difference how will they ever be able to understand each other? Well, it will raise any eyebrow for sure. But nothing is impossible to God. And finally they agreed as they felt if she’s happy there’s nothing more to it. And that is what any right thinking parent would wish for.

            I was in a shoot when I got the message of their consent. I called up my uncle and told him about it as I didn’t want to speak about this to my parents over phone. My parents were happy about it though a bit sad that I didn’t tell them directly about this. Anyways they were too happy that finally I found a girl. Of course I still wasn’t sure if it’s a dream or reality. I was keeping my fingers crossed because anything might happen in between and it can come to a stand still. My dad was as usual waiting and watching how things swirl. Mom, I guess, was more tensed as evident from what she told Patrick – ‘’I won’t believe it until it has happened.’

            On the said day my uncle came down. And for the best part my brother was in town. We all went together to her house as was the tradition. Her parents were so eager to see me. It was only on seeing me that they could breath a sigh of relief I believe. Because of my nature my parents expected the girl to be modern, in jeans or mini skirts. But to their surprise they saw a sari-clad humble girl. They were so happy on seeing her. 11^th of November, 2011 was set for the engagement to be held in Trivandrum.

            On the said date I got engaged with Iniya in front of my relatives and hers at my uncle’s house in Trivandrum. Thereby it was decided that the much awaited wedding to be held on 28^th December, 2011 at St. Anthony’s Friary Church, Madivala, Bangalore. And on that blessed day a wonderful fairy tale came alive by God’s blessing, thereby uniting me with Iniya, the one whom God specially crafted with His marvelous hands for me.

 

I thank God for His love, grace and mercy, for His marvelous plans, for creating such a wonderful girl and all the blessings. I also thank Iniya's parents for bringing her up so wonderfully and agreeing to give such a precious one to me. I thank Melba for being the link between us. I thank my parents for being patient and providing with more than what I needed no matter how much I troubled them. I thank Joy uncle for taking all the pain, right from the childhood till now, and his family for being with us. I thank my brother and sister for being so supportive through out my life. I thank my brother-in-law too for the support that maybe no other brother-in-law will give. I thank my cousin Anitha for being another link that made it possible. I thank another cousin Asha for her support. I also thank Molly aunty for all the guidance, sister aunty for the support. I cannot miss out Kunjaunty and George uncle for the wonderful times. Above all these were their prayers that made this a great story, along with my friends. Thanks a lot.